Moving away from home for the first time is fun and exciting. Stressful sometimes and scary all the time. I moved out with two of my sisters and they have made the whole experience so much easier and harder then it would have been along. Three girls in a single bedroom apartment can get on each others nerves.
"We're out of space we need to put the books on top of the shelf."
"No, I think it looks bad. We can just stick the notebooks in a box."
"No, I want to be able to find my notebooks."
And so it goes on. There have been many argument in our little apartment, and there will be more. We knew it would happen before we moved out. You can't put three girls in a one bedroom apartment with the same car and same place of work and not expect a lot confrontation. But instead of splitting us up it has helped us grow closer. Every time we make up we learn more about each other and how to get along with them.
Arguments aren’t so bad when you end them the right way. When you end the discussion knowing more about the other person and understanding them better, you did it right. Last week I asked my older sister for ideas on what to write about in the next post, she came back right away with “arguments”. I got to thinking about confrontation in life and stories. In life it forces you to go past the ordinary “hi, how are you” kind of conversations. An argument shows you a vulnerable part of that person and opens the door for you to get to know them better. The same thing applies to stories. That moment of weakness gives you a chance to show the characters fears and motivations. It gives the different characters an opportunity to get closer and the reader to get closer to the characters. Arguments can be used as a tool introduce the readers to hidden sides of your characters.
"We're out of space we need to put the books on top of the shelf."
"No, I think it looks bad. We can just stick the notebooks in a box."
"No, I want to be able to find my notebooks."
And so it goes on. There have been many argument in our little apartment, and there will be more. We knew it would happen before we moved out. You can't put three girls in a one bedroom apartment with the same car and same place of work and not expect a lot confrontation. But instead of splitting us up it has helped us grow closer. Every time we make up we learn more about each other and how to get along with them.
Arguments aren’t so bad when you end them the right way. When you end the discussion knowing more about the other person and understanding them better, you did it right. Last week I asked my older sister for ideas on what to write about in the next post, she came back right away with “arguments”. I got to thinking about confrontation in life and stories. In life it forces you to go past the ordinary “hi, how are you” kind of conversations. An argument shows you a vulnerable part of that person and opens the door for you to get to know them better. The same thing applies to stories. That moment of weakness gives you a chance to show the characters fears and motivations. It gives the different characters an opportunity to get closer and the reader to get closer to the characters. Arguments can be used as a tool introduce the readers to hidden sides of your characters.
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